Why is it that we tend to reject lovers who come on too strongly? Have you ever thought about this? At first glance, immediate attraction would seem to be a compliment: if the person can so quickly surmise that they like us, then we must be really great. Wouldn’t that bode well for our security… Continue reading Why we sometimes reject apparent love
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I have one tattoo, on my back, which is a symbol of a tree bending in the wind. At the time I got it, my interpretation was that that tree is strongest which bends most in the wind. This was because, after graduating from college in 2013, I had applied to top graduate programs in… Continue reading Home
Why, as a man, I want to live in an equitable world
When Donald Trump was elected to the presidency in 2016, I wrote a blog post acknowledging that I was not really as committed to equality as I might like to think. I did this because part of my spiritual practice entails identifying with that which feels frightful to me, and also because I wanted to… Continue reading Why, as a man, I want to live in an equitable world
Why I love horror movies
For a long time now I have loved horror movies. Some of the first I saw were outright shlock, such as 1997’s Cube and 1985’s Day of the Dead; however, with time I discovered and grew an appreciation for the classics, such as The Shining, the original Night of the Living Dead, and 1982’s The… Continue reading Why I love horror movies
Cults, culture, and charismatic leaders
I once dated someone who was a member of an ongoing, intensive support group, and I spent the first half of our relationship trying to persuade her that it was a cult. “You don’t need the group in order to be healthy!” I would tell her, “You don’t need them! Just look at me: I’m… Continue reading Cults, culture, and charismatic leaders
Jackson Holzberg Buckley 