essays

Why we sometimes reject apparent love

Why is it that we tend to reject lovers who come on too strongly? Have you ever thought about this? At first glance, immediate attraction would seem to be a compliment: if the person can so quickly surmise that they like us, then we must be really great. Wouldn’t that bode well for our security… Continue reading Why we sometimes reject apparent love

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Cults, culture, and charismatic leaders

I once dated someone who was a member of an ongoing, intensive support group, and I spent the first half of our relationship trying to persuade her that it was a cult. “You don’t need the group in order to be healthy!” I would tell her, “You don’t need them! Just look at me: I’m… Continue reading Cults, culture, and charismatic leaders

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Intro to the Man Kind Project

My cousin and me after the Space Between Stories retreat in 2018 Starting in June of 2019, I made an agreement with myself that I would seek out and do some sort of expansive, spiritual, retreat-type thing once per year every year. The first time I did something of this nature was actually in August… Continue reading Intro to the Man Kind Project

poetry

Emotionality

Emotions are like sparks,  Memories of something fiery, And yet simultaneously asleep. Inwardly they move us, Tell us what to do,  Or how we will feel upon certain actions. Like boundaries,  They prescribe limits. Emotionality is a relationship, A way in which we check in with ourselves, Asking, “Who am in this moment?” “Who am… Continue reading Emotionality