poetry

Valentine’s day poem

Happy valentine's day To the parts of myself I hide. These are the parts of myself That easily get angry, reactive, or afraid, The parts of myself that cower and cry without reason. * I am worried that when people see these parts of me, They won't want to know me, And so I do… Continue reading Valentine’s day poem

essays

Why we sometimes reject apparent love

Why is it that we tend to reject lovers who come on too strongly? Have you ever thought about this? At first glance, immediate attraction would seem to be a compliment: if the person can so quickly surmise that they like us, then we must be really great. Wouldn’t that bode well for our security… Continue reading Why we sometimes reject apparent love

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My wedding suit

In fall of 2019, I twice met with a tailor to custom design a suit for the wedding I planned to have in September of 2020. During my first meeting with the tailor, we took measurements of my body, as well as talked through and chose all the details of the suit. By the second… Continue reading My wedding suit

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Romantic, companionate, and boundless love

I want to introduce the idea that there are at least three forms of love.  The first is the one with which we are indoctrinated in movies, romantic love. In this kind of love, we feel our heart leap upon meeting another person; they complete us! There is a sense that anything is possible, and… Continue reading Romantic, companionate, and boundless love

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Why there are conspiracy theorists

Prior to the pandemic, I was hoping to spend the summer teaching courses based on my book, Literature: How to Read and Understand the World. I was going to host an in-person release event at a coffee shop, following which I would run once-weekly meetings at this same location. Additionally, I was planning to put… Continue reading Why there are conspiracy theorists