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Cults, culture, and charismatic leaders

I once dated someone who was a member of an ongoing, intensive support group, and I spent the first half of our relationship trying to persuade her that it was a cult. “You don’t need the group in order to be healthy!” I would tell her, “You don’t need them! Just look at me: I’m… Continue reading Cults, culture, and charismatic leaders

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Romantic, companionate, and boundless love

I want to introduce the idea that there are at least three forms of love.  The first is the one with which we are indoctrinated in movies, romantic love. In this kind of love, we feel our heart leap upon meeting another person; they complete us! There is a sense that anything is possible, and… Continue reading Romantic, companionate, and boundless love